Jada Pinkett-Smith: “The War on Men Through the Degradation of Woman”

After slaying critics in defense of her daughter Willow, outspoken actress and activist Jada Pinkett-Smith took to Facebook today to drop some knowledge on how the degradation of women has resulted in problems for both sexes.

Jada Pinkett-Smith Speaks Against Human Trafficking, 2012

Jada Pinkett-Smith Speaks Against Human Trafficking, 2012

As we look at societies where the women are lost, struggling for education and otherwise disregarded, versus those who consider women the center of their communities, Jada‘s words ring all the more truer. Read what she has to say below:

How is man to recognize his full self, his full power through the eye’s of an incomplete woman? The woman who has been stripped of Goddess recognition and diminished to a big ass and full breast for physical comfort only.

The woman who has been silenced so she may forget her spiritual essence because her words stir too much thought outside of the pleasure space. The woman who has been diminished to covering all that rots inside of her with weaves and red bottom shoes.

I am sure the men, who restructured our societies from cultures that honored woman, had no idea of the outcome. They had no idea that eventually, even men would render themselves empty and longing for meaning, depth and connection.

There is a deep sadness when I witness a man that can’t recognize the emptiness he feels when he objectifies himself as a bank and truly believes he can buy love with things and status. It is painful to witness the betrayal when a woman takes him up on that offer.

He doesn’t recognize that the [creation] of a half woman has contributed to his repressed anger and frustration of feeling he is not enough. He then may love no woman or keep many half women as his prize.

He doesn’t recognize that it’s his submersion in the imbalanced warrior culture, where violence is the means of getting respect and power, as the reason he can break the face of the woman who bore him four children.

When woman is lost, so is man. The truth is, woman is the window to a man’s heart and a man’s heart is the gateway to his soul.

Power and control will NEVER out weigh love.

May we all find our way.
J

Keep up with Jada on Facebook at facebook.com/jada



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  • Tyler the Grey

    I totally agree! I have been saying for some time now, that “The only
    way we may evolve is if we all have self sovereignty. When men cannot
    see themselves accurately from the perspective of women, they cannot see
    who they really are. When a woman does not need a man to have self
    sovereignty, men will become what women actually need, what humankind
    needs us to be.” Tyler the Grey

    • http://christinedlg.tumblr.com/ Christine de la Garza

      absolutely!

  • http://trustlifetoday.com/ Leslie Green

    Deep thought and feeling are communicated here, in a most heartfelt and eloquent way. But more than Mrs. Pinkett-Smith’s thoughts and feelings is this: she speaks Truth. The Truth of What Is. Thank you, Mrs. Pinkett-Smith. I stand even taller today with your words out in the world.

  • http://www.facebook.com/robert.yankoski Robert Yankoski

    She is an idiot. A bigot and a sexist, as well. Her words are a complete waste of time and space.

    • kim holleman

      Oh Robert you make you dumb jokes looser. you’re like a cartoon baby crying and making whining noises on a kitchen floor trying to get attention while the adults are having an important conversation.

      • Miss Lady

        Actually, Kim, he made a very good point. And by the way, it’s spelled “loser”.

    • http://twitter.com/mlperry90 michael l perry

      share a valid point or go back to whatever you were doing and shut up.

  • http://www.facebook.com/danijkovac Danijela Kovac

    Wow!!! This is absolutely brilliant! I am now a fan of Jada Pinkett-Smith!

  • Jason Cummins

    I applaud her for her conviction.

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  • isahiah62

    The woman who has been diminished to covering all that rots inside of her with weaves and red bottom shoes. A BURQA- congrats Jada you just described the gender apartheid of ISLAMIC societies

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  • KatSharpUbry

    wow. She nailed it. We as people have become nothing but a sum of our bank account and accumulated things. If that does not slap people in the face when they read that then I think they are already dead.

  • kim holleman

    Unbelievable what a genius in the midst. I really hope to hear a lot, A LOT more from JPS. Wow. I hope this gets shared everywhere.

  • http://clarkkent07.wordpress.com/ Clark Kent

    If I never breathed her in, and never kissed her and noticed the rain slowed from what she gave me inside myself I would have not experienced the place that gave me a mirror to see what it was that I had inside myself, or what it was that I wanted to be for myself because of her kiss. I wasn’t going to give her my past cycles of pain and deceit I gave myself, I made a significant sacrifice, I died! I realized it mattered not what I was, for it wasn’t what she wanted or needed. When I saw her again I wanted to be from the new eyes of what I wanted inside myself. A choice this is not just for me but all beings! You don’t have to repeat learned behavior, you don’t have to diminish yourself to what you THINK you are. You have something else inside you that is more profound and greater in intelligence. For years I was asked outside myself what is love? I struggled my whole life because I wanted to state all the things that I was told love was, but I didn’t have that from inside myself to answer. Then as I went back inside myself I found my 4, 8, 12, 17 year old self that saw all the abuse, the abandonment, the contempt of the eyes that lost their way to live outside myself and then embraced him. I did so with pain, with anger, with resentment and all the opposites. When I did this I no longer was a man, I came into form in being. My soul powers it and it ask for nothing in return. Just this existence where I embrace love in every moment. This is what I want her to have as I have this mirror in myself she has it in her! Love is the air in and out of all beings it has it’s energy we embrace not what we experience in existence to repeat. You do this in your presence not in your absence!

    • Tyler the Grey

      Nice! Happy, meaningful meditations to you! The more attention we pay to our effect and are still happy, the more abundant the appreciation!

      • http://clarkkent07.wordpress.com/ Clark Kent

        well… if you never stay in the moment with her how will you ever stay connected, it doesn’t take practice it takes making it your purpose. You can be combined you just have to place nothing between you that keeps you from it! Turn the magnet in the opposite direction it pulls away turn them over and point towards each other it is the pull we are missing. She points to it here. I understood it in that way!

  • EvilPundit

    Yawn. Yet another ignorant and prejudiced man-hating tirade.

    • Miss Lady

      Agreed! Additionally, her remarks were rambling and totally meaningless.

      • http://www.facebook.com/jeanmarc.abela Jean-Marc Abela

        Totally meaningless?

      • http://www.facebook.com/prion.indigo Prion Indigo

        Why do you think so? Are your words meaningless?

      • http://twitter.com/mlperry90 michael l perry

        the same goes for you,,i feel sorry for you, you will probably be very successful and full of
        lady freinds but alone when you go home and if you have kids i fear you
        will spread the hate of past feminist internalized wouds to problems now
        gone. you will never understand the deeper meaning behind men and women
        being so different because your so blinded by automated responses fed
        to you by angry old feminist wounds. think for youself for once.

    • http://www.facebook.com/prion.indigo Prion Indigo

      Were did you find man-hating in this? Because you don’t want to be awakened to the destruction males have caused?

    • http://twitter.com/mlperry90 michael l perry

      i feel sorry for you, you will probably be very successful and full of lady freinds but alone when you go home and if you have kids i fear you will spread the hate of past feminist internalized wouds to problems now gone. you will never understand the deeper meaning behind men and women being so different because your so blinded by automated responses fed to you by angry old feminist wounds. think for youself for once.

  • Miss Lady

    Well, at first, Ms. Pinkett Smith’s remarks *seem* profound, but in reality, once you read through her remarks more thoroughly, it’s really just a bunch of pseudo-intellectual, pop psychology, touch-feely psychobabble; I mean, what the hell was she trying to say? It’s better just to speak with simplicity, rather than try to show off. Oh well, she probably meant well.

    • David

      You’re extremely intelligent.

      • Miss Lady

        I will assume you meant that as a compliment and not sarcasm. If the former, then yes, I have been told by many people all my life that I’m very bright; in any case, I’m well aware of my own intelligence. If you mean the latter (sarcasm), then I feel sorry for you.

        • http://www.facebook.com/people/Kerrie-B-Wrye/743886378 Kerrie B. Wrye

          Using language that references ancient human oral traditions such as the Ancient Feminine, the subject featured in this article, is referencing one learning story that has aided renewed awakened self-awareness development in contemporary human consciousness. Subjects of study such as women’s, ethnic and gender studies have helped to promulgate such awareness and empowerment-raising. Because this quality perspective and expression by the subject in the article above, are each still very fresh with regard to historical human experience, many people rejoice at the confirmation it reflects for them. Those whose perspectives may still be tied to consensus conditioning, perhaps even unconsciously so, are also entitled to react to differences that are unfamiliar. Likewise, it can be important to encounter self-reflection enough to recognize reactionism is only a superficial entry into debating issues, different points of view, or just general conversation on relevant topics to meaningful depth with others we do not know. Beyond basic self-awareness recognition, deeper listening to others, and time in self-reflection greatly enhances clarity within, when experiencing life beyond what may be expected. The cultivation of our own alacrity to truly be fully present with interested curiosity as well as compassion, in all of our conversations with one another matters profoundly. What a gift to have this day to read so many views on a topic in the media that has attracted each of our perspectives.

    • EvilPundit

      Good analysis!

    • http://www.facebook.com/prion.indigo Prion Indigo

      Seems you’re more interested in your own opinion?

    • http://twitter.com/mlperry90 michael l perry

      if you do not get it dont try to wrap your head around it right now. you will only make yourself more emotionless gatekeeper of the beauty of past women greatness. housewives and career women.

  • David

    Whoa! I just got the chills! Got my BA in Sociology and took a few Women’s Studies courses. I strongly identify with the male problem that she notes as well as observe the female subjugation in our society. I am immediately a HUGE fan of her voice.

  • http://www.facebook.com/DystopicState Dystopic State

    I’m going to frame this.

  • Miss Lady

    Nothing. Both this comment as well as the original comments by Ms. Pinkett Smith are senseless.

  • Morgan

    I think you’re confusing “demands to entitlements” with demands for equality. Feminism isn’t what created these half selves; the subjugation of women is what created it. While we still live in a society where, while the laws regarding men and women might be more or less equal, the way society views and impacts the lives of men and women differ drastically. Most men objected to women’s right to vote and we live in a society that doesn’t even know what feminism truly is. It is about putting men down or putting women above men, it is about wanting equality of the sexes. Also, how is wanting equality for oneself and daughters seen as entitlement?

    • EvilPundit

      If most men had *really* objected to women’s right to vote, there would be no such right.

      In reality, men like to give women what they want, and so they gave them the vote – and a whole lot of other things besides.

      But there are limits to generosity, when the recipient only complains and demands more.

      • JT

        Excuse me? Why is it that *men* have the power to give (or withhold from) *women* the right to vote in the first place?

        Let’s just assume for argument’s sake that you’re a man. As a woman, I’d like to thank you very much for your ‘generosity’ and allowing me to have the same rights that you’ve had the privilege to bestow upon yourself.

        • http://www.facebook.com/prion.indigo Prion Indigo

          I love your comment! I could not have said it better!

          Many men have seen power as a “natural right”, but a woman is being demanding to ask for the same.

      • http://outinthestreetfilms.com/ Jon Raymond

        Women were not given the right to vote any more than blacks were given freedom from slavery. These things were won and taken through
        fighting and sacrifice.

    • http://twitter.com/mlperry90 michael l perry

      even i will claim many do not know the difference between the two. people have to be at a certain point to really get it though.

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Julie-Grant/100001359727804 Julie Grant

    I’m not a window.

    • http://twitter.com/mlperry90 michael l perry

      open a book or look deeper than the meaning of just being a window and men are supposedly the narrow minded ones.

  • Samantha

    BEAUTIFUL message!!!! So VERY true!!!

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Chris-Mackenzie/856435857 Chris Mackenzie

    This is male shaming propaganda, and Jada is totally out to lunch if she thinks she can speak on behalf of the male experience. When she says men “restructured our societies from cultures that honored woman” she is saying that men are more or less the omnipotent sex, are responsible for all bad things, and that women bare the brunt of violence and oppression, owing to the fact that they are blameless goddesses and men are just too stupid to realize it. She is doing exactly what she criticizes men of doing to women, turning them into half a person, by talking about them exclusively as through their worth is defined through the lens of their utility or non-utility to women.

    • http://www.facebook.com/prion.indigo Prion Indigo

      That’s your one-sided interpretation. She also said males have reduced themselves to bank accounts to fill women. Women have a way to build and empower men, but by oppressing women, and silencing them, males have silenced the inspiration that women could bestow.

  • Lizabeth

    Something about this just doesn’t feel right. I don’t like the idea that men need women any more than I like the idea that women need men. Why can’t a person, man or woman, recognize their full potential on their own without having to look through someone else? And why would they have to look through the eyes of the opposite gender? Because someone has different reproductive parts that means we can’t be happy without their insight, their guidance? Where is the independence? The equality?

    • Tyler the Grey

      I believe that we must inspire our children to be accepting of self sovereignty for all. We all have the same basic needs, I would feel much better helping others to enjoy life, rather than compete with them for my ability to do so. I also believe that we should have empathy for the people (and things) that we effect. Then we will understand who we are in that relationship. If it is a member of the opposite sex that we have the most effect on, or not, we need to understand their perspective, or we miss our best chance to understand who we are, by how we inspire the people we effect.
      Peace!

    • Elka

      Lizbeth, thank you! I kept wondering what it was that just didn’t sit right with me about this and that’s exactly it. I understand (I think) what Jada is trying to say, and I respect the point she’s trying to make, but there’s something constraining in her words, something that makes me squirm as if I’m being bound. I don’t like extremes, and I find her statement an extreme, just as I found poster Rog’s response (see above) an extreme on the opposite (deeply sexist) end of the spectrum. All I need or want from men is to be seen and treated as his equal, which is how I see myself. I don’t need to be his Goddess or his Queen, anymore than I need him to be my God or my King.

      • http://twitter.com/mlperry90 michael l perry

        its not extreme its just true. a woman with a career works 40 hours a week and got her eggs empragnated by the sperm injections doctor process now she must balance 40 a week, feminist views of how to raise a child, and any form of traditional view of how to raise a child with traditons present or your raising a cold shell of a child, that will not have a voice when he or she grows up, the male children of majority single moms grow up confused and agry which is natural for a man in a society that does not hold him a vital piece of the puzzle. do and on top of that the women will now live shorter time because she is not having as much sex which keeps humans healthy and stress free, job securty is never possible the more money you make the higher chance you will not get another job due to over qualifications and too high salary expectation. ..listen there is too much evidence to support wht i am saying and i do not want to write a book. men and women were never supposed to do this by themselves…that is all it boils down too..terms like masogny and all the other feminist terms are now being taken out of context and applied where women see fit to apply the term. that is wrong. the fact is that america has no tradition and a world without traditon may as well have no individual past ..it is a sad day to be an american for me. feminism is done doing good for men and women, now it is doing more harm than good.

    • http://twitter.com/mlperry90 michael l perry

      men and women were never meant to go through life alone, what is so hard about that.?

    • http://www.facebook.com/CatarinaPalma Ana Catarina Palma

      Lizabeth, i believe Jada did not despise the dependence of women towards men either. i believe the focus of this talk was on men from the start. Her reference about war and violence – typically regarded as male creations – prove that, so saying the same applies on the other gender-direction, would be unnecessary. As i read the article the first time, it also sounded sexist to me (towards woman). i read it after a while and understood her omissions don’t mean she doesn’t agree.

    • http://www.facebook.com/CatarinaPalma Ana Catarina Palma

      besides, if we put it into context, when it comes to human trafficking, all her words are righteous indeed!

    • http://www.facebook.com/ThorLefebvre Arthur Lefebvre

      thaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaank you. i feel exactly the same way. having a discussion about it on facebook right now and did a search to find some more opinions and a broader view of the topic at hand and this and a few other message boards really helped. :)

  • http://www.facebook.com/jeanmarc.abela Jean-Marc Abela

    Jadda exploited her sexuality? In what instance?

  • Nettrice

    That’s your opinion, of course. However, the longevity of the Smith’s marriage weakens your response. Jada isn’t belittling anyone. She’s testifying and telling others her secret to a successful relationship. If or when they divorce then you might have a point.

  • Nettrice

    Some of the reaction to Jada Pinkett Smith’s testimonial is reminiscent to the reactions to Alice Walker’s “The Color Purple,” i.e. the characters in the novel that break the boundaries of traditional male or female gender roles. Because male roles are viewed as the source of oppressive behavior they are not fulfilling their roles (as caregivers), it is unlikely for black woman to fulfill their roles of femininity because they are based on mens’ capabilities. Pinkett is saying something different though. She is saying that people need to deal with their issues BEFORE getting into long-term relationships and starting families. With marriage rates among black men and women steadily decreasing she may have a point.

  • mej313

    how ridiculous–the feminist movement happened during a time when Civil Rights, anti-war demonstrations and a lot of socially-conscious movements were putting people out in the streets protesting, some “guerrillas” who advocated violence as as a solution since legal reforms are slow and the inevitable backlash, which we are witnessing now in our society, takes back the “rights” earned through a male-dominated legal system. That pornography is a basic staple of current media/music industry is testament to how halfway women have come, baby, all these years

  • http://christinedlg.tumblr.com/ Christine de la Garza

    I have come to know and believe this to be true: Women are the emotional gatekeepers in this world. But we cannot wait on men to recognize our sacred stature. We must claim it and own it ourselves. Not with bravado but with bravery. With joyful recognition that our stability – our sanity really – requires our attentive honor. When we know that we are fearfully and gloriously made… that we are sacred… that we are precious… that we are powerful in our true fierce feminine nature then we can restore balance. This is not a battle that man must or even can lead. It is a war of reclamation that woman alone must charge. Restoring balance will require sacrifice and surrender as does any battle. But it cannot be fought on a field (in the media) alone – it has to be fought and won in our minds (what did you come to believe about yourself?) with our bodies (why & when do you give yourself away?) and in our souls (can you be tender/fierce with yourself for yourself?) and on always on behalf of our Spirit (our joyful sense of self & selflessness). For women warriors who are willing, the reward is to lay claim to the Heaven within us – to discover a true knowledge of completeness. And when we find ourselves in our right minds – spirit & soul balanced – men who seek refuge will find their way home.

  • Tyler the Grey

    I agree, we must inspire our children otherwise!

  • uleboay iarlay

    i thought this was great, but she does lesbian acts and is part of a cult that beta test mind controlled woman for her pleasure. I see she is trying to do something good by changing thought but ,She’s part of the Zionist system so I know it’s more Propaganda

  • Dark Matter

    Well rehearsed and executed Jada, I applaud your effort. Your talents as an actress show all too well. Now, do us all a favor and climb back into your little bubble. Your the biggest hypocrite I’ve seen in quite a while. Though the words you use may have meaning, your conviction stinks of a subtle impuissant nature you know all too well. You blindly covet your ‘man’ with a subservient nature only showing your weakness as a woman. I was raised by a single mother who showed me what true strength is. What you don’t realize about man, which you so affectionately pity with sadness regarding an assumed lack of self worth, is these men are actually quite confident in that state. YOU are the one that is judgmental and condescending, assuming that they have no self worth. Thank you for bestowing upon us all your great wisdom. What you could do for us Jada, is go back to Malibu and tuck your head in the sand. Speak not of anything that doesn’t involve a massage, a chauffeur, or the millions you and your husband have made on your last films. But don’t speak to us like you have any knowledge of wisdom on the subject of ‘man’. That, in and of itself, is comical. I think what amazes me the most, is looking at the humble beginnings you came from, I think you’ve actually lost your way along your travels. Sad. That feisty bull dog you once were was much more appealing and commonsensical.

    • http://www.facebook.com/people/John-Manuel/718882229 John Manuel

      Touché my friend. Well said. As much as I like her innocent approach, the hidden truth which you discussed is what I also noticed. Just to add, she puts women as the culprits for men’s problems. Silly!

  • Elka

    Rog, as a woman who has NEVER given a damn about such artificial things as “beauty products, knick knacks, lead figurines, and having 100 pairs of shoes,” I’m saddened, disheartened, and angered by your narrow, sexist, stereotypical view of what it means to be a woman in a masculine society. Perhaps it is YOU who should do some soul searching in an attempt to figure out why you have such a demeaning and disempowered view of women.

    • http://twitter.com/mlperry90 michael l perry

      i see this alot, but what women should really be worried about is that it even got to the point where women are misunderstood as a whole. that is what you should be worried about..

  • http://twitter.com/omaha_hair Tomeka_does_hair

    I agree…TOTALLY!

  • http://twitter.com/megapotamus Cardinal ACK!

    Good stuff but it’s a little undercut coming from half of a mega-power couple of movie stars. Talk about degradation…..

  • http://outinthestreetfilms.com/ Jon Raymond

    I wonder how many people are aware of “The Woman’s Bible: A Classic Feminist Perspective” by Elizabeth Cady Stanton, and the fact that King James rewrote The Bible to diminish women historically. Ms. Smith echoes her words.

    “Woman’s degradation is in mans idea of his sexual rights. Our religion,
    laws, customs, are all founded on the belief that woman was made for
    man.”


    Elizabeth Cady Stanton

    • http://www.facebook.com/prion.indigo Prion Indigo

      There is your basic fallacy, King James DID NOT write the Bible. If you understand the cultural backround of the Bible, you understand that is not about oppressing women.

  • http://outinthestreetfilms.com/ Jon Raymond

    Perhaps you confuse exploitation with empowerment. Only others exploit you.

  • Demetrius

    come 2 my city an give that speech at my school bitches b like ima do me /an niggas be like ima do u

  • amananderson

    Go Jada!

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Laura-George/100001639132769 Laura George

    This started a long time ago, when the government took the place of husband and father and with the Marxist Feminist movement. Men have become pretty much irrelevant. And lost. Stripped of their provider/father roles and thus their manhood. What are they left with? The streets? Workaholics? Alcoholics? Drug Addicts? Settling for less than love just to be in a relationship that will no doubt turn sour very quickly, for both. Women and the government have men over a barrel. Even if the single woman is not on government assistance, she can be in a heartbeat. It’s always lurking there, waiting for its next victim. And it’s going to get worse.

  • http://www.facebook.com/roger.williamson.3990 Roger Williamson

    Well said, Jada

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  • Anastasia See

    And a response I found on the internet regarding Jada’s statement: http://www.prostatemagic.com/blog/an-open-letter-to-jada-pinkett-smith/

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/John-Manuel/718882229 John Manuel

    Although this is an intent to make sense of sexist issues, I think that it missed the spot. This philosophy, or way of thinking simply puts the blame on women for a man not being at his full potential. The simple reality is that women have been placed as objects of use in our society. The rationale behind that may be the impotence of some men, but generally it is just ignorance. Ignorance that has been passed down generations; the same type of ignorance that created racism. The caste system which dates back to India as well as the Spanish Conquests. These systems replaced values of our earlier civilization, to that Mrs. Smith is correct, but when regarding our present day situation, I would create an argument that doesn’t make women second best as usual even if we refer to the women as being stripped of her Goddess status. Goddess? Come on, that is right there with the problem that is being critiqued Status!? What is the real problem?

  • CR

    I really enjoyed this article and I’m proud that Jada had the courage to go out into the world and talk about a topic that would definitely stir up a lot of emotions and opinions. I would also like to address the comments that are being made in response to this article. How do this comments relate to what she is talking about?? Also, in my opinion many of the comments on this thread sound very hateful and violent. Those that can relate to this article will enjoy it and those that don’t, won’t.

    But is it necessary to bash another for not sharing your same opinion and belief system???

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000586401442 Phyllia Morrelli

    It’s the responsibility of women to claim their own power and not the responsibility of men to give women power. Nice thoughts but too many fallacies for my liking.How does LGBT fit into this premise?

  • http://www.facebook.com/peter.betbasoo Peter BetBasoo

    I agree with this, but for one thing. It was not men that …”restructured our societies from cultures that honored woman…”, it was women and the feminist movement — probably the most destructive movement in the history of our nation. The feminist wanted equality, to erase the intrinsic differences between men and women, and in so doing they destroyed the essence of womanhood and emasculated manhood, because the only way to make women equal to man was to erase any difference between them.

  • disqus_ET993UCSj4

    I got from this that there is a balance that must be maintain, and the duty to maintain that balance rests with, and depends on, both sides: male AND female. The more that we blame each other for our collective misfortune, the more prolonged and worse our situation gets. Each party must take it upon themselves to take a step closer and commit ourselves to uplifting us as a whole. That is why there are two parts. It is a perfect equation.

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Med-Billing/100003720482723 Med Billing

    Women have never been about love, they have always been about power and control. Men miss this most critical fact because most of them never grew up and consequently see the word “woman” and “mother” as synonyms, when being a mother is actually a phenomenon nearly independent of being a woman. It’s a hormonal-based event, far more then it is a gender-based event. If a woman fails to hold her child during the critical time period after pregnancy and the right hormones don’t kick in, the child can just forget about having a genuine experience of being mothered! http://www.prostatemagic.com/blog/an-open-letter-to-jada-pinkett-smith/

  • http://twitter.com/TerrillCharming Skyfall®

    Sure is easy to talk about these things being married to a Hollywood millionaire. Talk to some real women out here married to an average Joe or Tyrone. We publicize all the work of these celebrities but really we should talk and publish the work of working Americans. See where their views are.

    • http://www.sinuousmag.com/ theComplex

      Did you have someone, of the working class, to recommend?

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  • tensacross

    Its rare you hear an actress as thoughtful and articulate as this. I’m very impressed with Jada Pinkett-Smith.
    What I like best is how counter-intuitive and generous her thoughts are. She’s not just parroting liberal orthodoxy and expecting applause. She’s actually thought about this.
    Jada! Suggest you do something more worthwhile with your life. Drop acting for activism.

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  • http://www.facebook.com/prion.indigo Prion Indigo

    This is a very good point. Very sad, too. We humans seem to be more destructive than any parasite, that’s what most of us have become. Parasites willfully oblivious the harm we cause. :(

    And by catering the most basic psychological desires of females we have created, as much as men, an industry that serves us to the exclusion of the needs of others. It is seen as “manly” to hunt and prove one’s “worth” that way, as to look “beautiful” in furs or leathers, as those they area necessity to a woman.

  • http://www.facebook.com/prion.indigo Prion Indigo

    That’s an interesting thought.

  • http://twitter.com/mlperry90 michael l perry

    people grow..that happens you know. so that makes her point even more valid.

  • Jon Novak

    What does any of this have to do with human trafficking?
    Traffickers are sociopaths who are only interested in money and power. They consist of both men and women primarily from countries that have a large population of people trapped in a poor socio-economic background. These criminals need to be arrested and the conditions that create the poor socio-economic status of victims need to be rectified through education and opportunities.
    How come Jada Pinkett Smith didn’t say any of these things? She seems to be reading motivational quotes off the wrapper on her bottled water. “Power and control will NEVER out weigh love.” WTF?

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=563292087 Joseph Grundl

    What is talking about and why does anyone care ? Champagne Limousine Liberal Drivel. Get a real job.

  • http://www.facebook.com/kavyahamsa.dravananda Kavyahamsa Dravananda

    I just reviewed Jada Pinket Smith’s commentary on “The War on Men Through the Degradation of Woman”, here is my opinion. The title should have been “The Degradation of Humankind Through The War on The Soul” with the emphasis on the actual issue and the focus away from a single gender or materialistically based cause. That issue and cause goes beyond what the sensual mind perceives via the bodily faculties, much deeper to the core of the mind where the duality starts within the individual, that which is the ego of humankind and the desires and fears manifested through a predominantly sense conscious mind. “People” need to realize the duality/s of reality fed by the ego driven desires that misguide one away from the truth, leading to accusations, or blame of a certain gender for violence, or sexual looseness, or the responsibility of being the suppressor. Both men and women are equally responsible for the issues of society throughout time as we are both animals of higher thought and action i.e. it takes two to tango. Moreover take note that modern psychology, spirituality and enlightened individuals have proven that one’s thoughts will dictate one’s actions and create one’s reality; negative thoughts equal negative actions and life, along with negative karma preceding a future life of misfortunes.

    The terms man and woman were derived from the word “human” and even if books claim otherwise, the truth is the term “human” has been in the mind of God’s long before the term had been released by the mind and mouth of a human. Considering a man and woman for what they actually are as minds and bodies that capsulate a soul, are in fact equal parts to a unique puzzle, which when put together correctly make the perfect one, or in other words true soul-guided love is the window to the Unmanifested Spirit (God/Goddess), that which is not limited to either a male or female status as the dominant aspect.